Overcome different desires in the bedroom and reclaim a mutually-fulfilling sex life in just a few months.

You both feel that your intimacy needs are being met (physically and emotionally) in your partnership.

You both feel confident communicating about your desires and boundaries without shame.

You're finally enjoying your erotic experiences together without either of you feeling pressured or repressed. 

That's why I made you

A virtual couples program to overcome "sexual incompatibility" and create a win-win intimate life in 6 months or less.

We developed our Desire Archetypes™️ methodology to empower couples who are struggling with sexual misalignment to design a mutually-fulfilling erotic life together. 

"My wife and I had a major break-through when we realized that her Desire Archetype™️ is Sensate. I offered to give her a long, slow, sensual massage and used the healing language you taught for her Archetype. It ended up being the first time we had sex in over 6 years! I couldn't believe it."

— Steve A.

"Desire by Design gave us permission to say what we want without it coming off as a demand or either of us taking it personally. Understanding our desires through the Desire Archetypes framework really helped take away the stigma of shame from what we want. We have pretty different Archetypes, so it’s interesting to realize, 'Oh wow, you have a different desire that's fulfilling to you. Let me tell you what’s fulfilling for me and let’s meet somewhere in the middle.' It’s been eye-opening to view sex as healing. We've realized so much about our sexual needs but also our needs in general. It's been an amazing journey of discovery for us." 

— Mike & Diana C.

Feel more present and connected to your partner and to your own body and sensuality in just the first week!

Get comfortable communicating about your needs, desires and boundaries in the bedroom and overcome sexual shame once and for all.

Explore how your erotic personality types can play together and never feel "sexually incompatible" again.

Do you struggle to get out of your head and into your body during sex? 

Do you and your partner seem to miss each other's "cues"? 

This short but powerful course will help you jump-start your intimacy.

Do you know what you want (or don't want) and do you feel comfortable talking to your partner about it? In this course, you will master the art of communicating about your needs, desires, wants and boundaries for a more connected and authentic sex life.

The Desire Archetypes™️ methodology empowers you to design a mutually-satisfying sex life around both of your erotic personality types.

Master the basics of couples communication for emotional intimacy and create a routine of relationship check-ins for a healthy partnership.

Enjoy our how-to's and workshops on all things erotic, from orgasms to oral sex to giving each other a mind-blowing sensual massage!

As soon as you join Desire by Design, you will be granted 24/7 lifetime access to our private virtual community.

There, you can ask questions, get support, celebrate your wins, and learn from the experiences of others who are also on a journey of sexually empowering their relationships.

Have you already tried traditional couples therapy but it didn't help your sex life and you left feeling drained? That's because experiences are more effective—and, frankly, more fun—than talk therapy or left-brain learning alone when it comes to sex. In this program, you'll explore dozens of connective, creative and transformational exercises and partner practices in a low-pressure setting to get you results.

"Desire by Design is life-changing—one of the best investments we've ever made. Your exercises gave us new confidence to talk about and explore our needs together. Our relationship has gotten closer, sexier, more intimate and more trusting. We couldn't have done it without this program! Every couple struggling with their sex should do this.

— Kai F. & Lara H.

Meet Your Coach

Hi! I'm Janel, a certified Somatica® Method sex & relationship coach obsessed with Relationship Design—the concept that you can design your intimate relationships around your desires instead of suppressing your needs and trying to fit into a one-size-fits-all model of how love and sex are "supposed to" be.

Mismatched desires has been an obstacle in almost every relationship I've ever been in. It's hard to find a partner with the exact same sexual needs. Sometimes I want more sex or more of a certain kind of sex than my partner does, and sometimes I am the less desirous and more hesitant partner. As a result, I intimately understand the frustration of both sides.

I started noticing that many of my friends AND clients are struggling with this issue in their relationships, so I knew it was time to help as many people as possible reconnect to desire, to their partners, and to themselves.

I have seen that with the right tools, couples with very different sexual needs can create a win-win sex life. I'm honored to be your guide on your journey to create the thriving intimacy you crave.

"Janel skillfully and lovingly creates one of the most intimate experiences you will ever engage in. You will feel seen, held and accepted for who you are in this program. She is the only coach I know whose expertise is designing relationships around authentic desires.

Choose Desire by Design. You will not be disappointed."

— Thea Robnett

MA Integrative Health & Healing, Sex & Relationship Coach

You can complete our pre-recorded course material from the comfort of your couch or the privacy of your bed! This program is completely digital, so you can access it from any device through our online course portal.

The Gottman Institute recommends that couples spend 6 hours a week of quality time together to maintain a healthy relationship. We ask that you spend 6 hours a month (between 1-2 hours a week) for 6 months on this program. Think of it as a weekly connection date with your partner! That being said, you two are free to go at your own pace and do the lessons and exercises on your own schedule. 

You can either keep feeling disconnected and resentful about your sexual misalignment while looking for answers in books, blogposts and expensive private sessions with talk therapists who may not even specialize in desire...

Claim the tools you need to design the intimate relationship you want.

"Janel's tools for exploring and talking about our desires and fears helped us create space and understanding where before there was a wall of frustration and stress that felt completely insurmountable. Feeling relief from the ways we’ve been “stuck” gives us much-needed hope about what's possible for us moving forward."

— Chelsea & Sophie T.

Payment plan

498/month

for 3 months

one-time investment

1298

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