You both feel that your intimacy needs are being met (physically and emotionally) in your partnership.
You both feel confident communicating about your desires and boundaries without shame.
You're finally enjoying your erotic experiences together without either of you feeling pressured or repressed.
That's why I made you
— Steve A.
— Mike & Diana C.
Feel more present and connected to your partner and to your own body and sensuality in just the first week!
Get comfortable communicating about your needs, desires and boundaries in the bedroom and overcome sexual shame once and for all.
Explore how your erotic personality types can play together and never feel "sexually incompatible" again.
Do you struggle to get out of your head and into your body during sex?
Do you and your partner seem to miss each other's "cues"?
This short but powerful course will help you jump-start your intimacy.
Do you know what you want (or don't want) and do you feel comfortable talking to your partner about it? In this course, you will master the art of communicating about your needs, desires, wants and boundaries for a more connected and authentic sex life.
The Desire Archetypes™️ methodology empowers you to design a mutually-satisfying sex life around both of your erotic personality types.
Master the basics of couples communication for emotional intimacy and create a routine of relationship check-ins for a healthy partnership.
Enjoy our how-to's and workshops on all things erotic, from orgasms to oral sex to giving each other a mind-blowing sensual massage!
As soon as you join Desire by Design, you will be granted 24/7 lifetime access to our private virtual community.
There, you can ask questions, get support, celebrate your wins, and learn from the experiences of others who are also on a journey of sexually empowering their relationships.
Have you already tried traditional couples therapy but it didn't help your sex life and you left feeling drained? That's because experiences are more effective—and, frankly, more fun—than talk therapy or left-brain learning alone when it comes to sex. In this program, you'll explore dozens of connective, creative and transformational exercises and partner practices in a low-pressure setting to get you results.
— Kai F. & Lara H.
Meet Your Coach
Hi! I'm Janel, a certified Somatica® Method sex & relationship coach obsessed with Relationship Design—the concept that you can design your intimate relationships around your desires instead of suppressing your needs and trying to fit into a one-size-fits-all model of how love and sex are "supposed to" be.
Mismatched desires has been an obstacle in almost every relationship I've ever been in. It's hard to find a partner with the exact same sexual needs. Sometimes I want more sex or more of a certain kind of sex than my partner does, and sometimes I am the less desirous and more hesitant partner. As a result, I intimately understand the frustration of both sides.
I started noticing that many of my friends AND clients are struggling with this issue in their relationships, so I knew it was time to help as many people as possible reconnect to desire, to their partners, and to themselves.
I have seen that with the right tools, couples with very different sexual needs can create a win-win sex life. I'm honored to be your guide on your journey to create the thriving intimacy you crave.
— Thea Robnett
MA Integrative Health & Healing, Sex & Relationship Coach
You can complete our pre-recorded course material from the comfort of your couch or the privacy of your bed! This program is completely digital, so you can access it from any device through our online course portal.
The Gottman Institute recommends that couples spend 6 hours a week of quality time together to maintain a healthy relationship. We ask that you spend 6 hours a month (between 1-2 hours a week) for 6 months on this program. Think of it as a weekly connection date with your partner! That being said, you two are free to go at your own pace and do the lessons and exercises on your own schedule.
Will we get coaching in this program?
There are several avenues for live support in this program, though it's not private coaching.
If you feel you need private coaching in tandem with Desire by Design to keep you on track:
Can I participate without my partner?
Though there are some lessons, exercises and reflections specifically for individuals, we designed most of the experiential practices in this program for couples to ensure the transformation you are both seeking for your intimate life.
To get you the results you want, you must be willing to embark on this journey together. Think of this program is an opportunity for a weekly structured connection date with your partner!
How do I login to the coursework library?
This program is hosted in a platform called Mighty Networks that is designed for online courses and communities. There is a Mighty Networks app you can download to access the content on your phone. When you sign up, you will receive automatic email instructions on how to login. Once inside the platform, you'll see a menu with Courses, upcoming Events, and Community Feed.
Will we have lifetime access to the content?
Yes! However, that may change in the future, so take advantage of this offer now.
Is the program investment for both of us?
Yes! The investment is per couple, not per person. Only one partner needs to sign up for the program.
What's your refund policy?
We offer a 7-day refund period to make sure you're totally satisfied with the program.
If you or your partner feels dissatisfied with the program after the first week of exploring the content, please reach out to us to let us know. We will do our best to make it right!
Does this count as therapy?
— Chelsea & Sophie T.
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